Thursday has arrived once again – only now it is Friday! Time for Hitch or Ditch – Round 9!  The newest entry is below – comment on the blog, Tweet me or shoot me a Facebook message.  I know the following issue is tough. Please offer any advice you may have…..

Hi Mr M Famous, I really hope you can help me address a problem that is threatening to prevent me from marrying a man that I really do love. My fiance and I are planning to get married in the fall. We have been together for about 5 years. We met in a cycling class at the fitness center in college. He was active on the flag foot ball team for his fraternity, and I was a cross country runner for the University. Since we graduated from college and left our respective sports behind, we have both admittedly been a little more careless with our exercise routines – we were, of course, religious about it in school. Honestly, it is one of the reasons we fell in love so quickly. Our passion for staying fit was a priority for both of us so it made it easy to be together regularly. However, he has taken his careless behavior to a new level over the past 6 months….he has gained almost 60 pounds! It tears me apart to say this, but I am no longer attracted to him. I am still 100% in love with his heart, but his outward appearance is such a turnoff. I am a very visual person. I take good care of myself for that reason. I NEED to be equally attracted physically and mentally. I know he is self conscious and sensitive about his weight gain, so I have tried to be understanding, but we are edging towards a point of no return. And, on top of it all, I have to say, I kind of feel like it isn’t fair that I signed up to marry one guy that has morphed into another. I hate feeling that way, but it is the honest truth. I have tried a few subtle hints and I try to keep junk out of the house, but he is not catching on. Lately, I have found myself avoiding wedding planning that NEEDS to be done and I think I am subconsciously putting it off. What do you think?

Anonymous

So,  everyone what do we think – Tweet Me, Facebook Me or comment below.  Anonymous needs our help!

Be M Famous

CMC

Thursday has arrived once again! Time for Hitch or Ditch – Round 8!  The newest entry is below – comment on the blog, Tweet me or shoot me a Facebook message.  This one is from a dear friend of mine. Please offer any advice you may have…..

Christopher,

I am writing to you as a friend, but also as a woman in need of non-biased advice. Please change the names in the following email. I don’t want to make a bad situation worse. You know how people talk. I love you and thank you for providing friends and followers with a place to vent and ask for help.

I know some of this will be repetitive for you, but I want to make sure the readers have the back story. As you know my father is getting remarried this year. I know, we NEVER thought this would happen. I was actually so secure in thinking that he would never actually marry his girlfriend, that I never even bothered to worry. As an only child, my bond with my dad is immense. But as an only child with only one parent, that bond is even greater! My parents have been divorced since I was in the first grade, and my mom passed away when I was in third. My dad is absolutely incredible – he is father and mother – in one person. I honestly do not feel like I was ever “cheated” by only having one parent. We were this dynamic duo working our way through middle school, teenage years and college. He supported me and challenged me without smothering me in the slightest. Of course I miss my mother – she was an extraordinary woman, and my dad has always done a great job of telling me stories, funny, random, sad and touching, which helps me remember her.

Having said all of that, I am now married with a baby of my own on the way, and my dad and I are still as close as ever. He started dating “Dot” about 4 years ago. He met her at the grocery store of all places. Dot is the total opposite of how I envision my mother would be 30 years later. She is a nice enough lady, but she is a bit loud, she loves white wine a little too much, she dotes on my father day and night, she has redecorated his house to her taste, she dresses slightly too young for her age and she wants to be my best friend. Believe when I say that I know I sound like a twelve year old brat. I know the situation could be so much worse – he could have gone the typical route – too young, in it for the money, fake everything. He didn’t, but I am still mortified at the thought of Dot becoming a part of my family…officially. I have just been tolerating her because I thought it gave him something to do. I never thought he would want to grow old with her!

I know I am not alone in this situation. I feel like your readers must have experienced this or something similar or know someone that has. I just need advice. I need to know how to talk to my dad and tell him how I feel….beg him not to marry her. I need to know if I should talk to my dad or is it going to put a rift between us that can’t be fixed? I am stressing over this to the point that my husband says I am going to go into pre-term labor – he is joking but only slightly. I need to deal with the situation but I don’t know how.

Take care my friend,
RR

So,  everyone what do we think – Tweet Me, Facebook Me or comment below.  RR needs our help!

Be M Famous

CMC

Today is Sunday and that means it is time for my response to Hitch or Ditch – Round 3!

Oh my dear Snoop…don’t beat yourself up over this.  I will admit to you that I, at first reading your story, was a little taken aback by the fact that you were so put off by the ring. However, the more I began thinking about what I was going to write back to you, the more I began to kind of understand.  To be honest, I receive countless emails and questions from ladies that want to know about how to go about encouraging their other half to “beef up the bling.” I usually suggest calling in the friends. This was actually also a comment from a reader.  See if you can get him to admit to one of your friends that he is going to pop the question, then your best friends can be prepared to say, “oh can we see the ring?” or “do you need a little help ring shopping?”  Hopefully they will be able to take care of it from there.

My suggestion to men out there… go ring shopping together!  Window shopping that is.  Have your future bride try on different rings and discuss all her different options together.  So, when you do pop the question, you will make her proud to show of her ring.

Now my dear, you are aware that I am going to have to say this.  You didn’t write into me thinking that I would be delicate with my words did you?  I want you to do some soul searching.  What if that ring is all that he could afford at this time? What if he loves you so much that he really was only thinking about the thought behind it?  What if the ring is a family heirloom that means a great deal to him? Be sure to remember to be excited about the fact that he is going to propose and that you have a man that loves you.  The ring should simply be an added bonus.  Ok, now that I have said that please let me give you my personal thought, “It don’t mean a thing unless that ring got some BLING”  {WINK}  I have always been of the thought that less is less and more is more, so I do understand your feelings.  Either way, he loves you! And the ring is to symbolize that! Despite the size….

Congrats on getting “Hitched” because that is what the readers think you should do…

Remember the reason,

Mr M Famous

I know ya’ll know the drill, but just to recap for new readers, this is Hitch or Ditch – Round 3! Here’s how to play – Read the stories and vote – comment on the blog, Tweet me or shoot me a Facebook message – on whether the couple should get “Hitched” or “Ditched.”  Now, of course, I will provide a witty commentary on the story and give my final observation. Hitch or Ditch debuts on Thursdays, and you have until Saturday night at midnight to vote!  Sunday, I tally the votes and give my final rundown of what the public thinks about the fate of these couples.  Fun times always lie ahead at the Christopher Macken web site.  So tune in on Thursdays to see which couple needs a little unbiased advice. Friends, family and coworkers sit down and submit the “on Goings” of your friends’ relationships and let the public be the judge and jury…it’s time to play…Hitch or Ditch…

Dearest Mr. M Famous,

I really cannot believe I am even going to tell anyone this, but I am making myself sick worrying, so I need to tell someone and at least this way I can stay anonymous.

I have a boyfriend that I love soooo much. We have been dating since highschool. We are now done with college and have been living together for the past year.  Marriage is inevitable for us, which is wonderful because we really do love each other. So, in reality, this is not a “Hitch or Ditch” situation.  I am going to marry this man, but getting there is the big problem.

So, we have been discussing marriage more and more lately. We even talked about going to ring shop together, but he keeps saying that he really wants to surprise me. So in typical girl fashion, I am convinced that he is going to propose with every breath he takes. Well, in that craziness, I snoop around our apartment constantly – terrible, I know.  I am not sure I ever actually thought I would find anything, BUT last week I found my engagement ring and at the very moment I should have been so disgustingly excited, I wanted to vomit because I hate it!  I know I am a terrible person, but I really don’t like it. I have tried. I have tried it on over and over – every time he leaves the house, I pull it out and put it on. Seriously, I would never wear this thing and I don’t know what to do. I wanted to run to him and beg him to exchange it, but then he would know I snooped which would break his heart. But if he proposes with this ring, it will break my heart.  I don’t know what to do. This is awful. Maybe I am getting what I deserve.

“Snoop Dog”

So,  everyone what do we think – Tweet Me, Facebook Me or comment below.  “Snoop Dog” needs our help!

Be M Famous

CMC

After much preparation and excitement, I am so thrilled to FINALLY announce that I have partnered with DIY Weddings Magazine to write a quarterly style column featuring ASK M FAMOUS!

DIY Weddings Magazine is an online wedding publication that is full of budget saving tips and tricks. With more content and less advertising, this publication is perfect for any bride!

I will be featured in each of the 4 issues this year as Ask M Famous. From rehearsal dinners and engagement parties to wedding day fashion and matters of the heart, I, Mr. M Famous will answer those tough questions and provide a witty and refreshing look at planning your perfect day. So put down the wedding planner and set that stack of books aside, Mr. M Famous is here to help!

Keep an eye out for my first column in the Spring issue available in March!

Be M Famous!

CMC

P.S.- Don’t forget to email your questions to askmfamous@christophermacken.com.