I would like for everyone to take a moment and take a very nostalgic walk with me – one that has had many ups and downs, twists and turns and experiences that are unparalleled.
Picture a 6th grade boy – introverted and awkward, wanting so badly for the more popular children to like him. Shy among his peers and creative, this child was kind and caring and always felt like the teachers liked him more than his classmates. Over the years, he was tormented and bullied, because he was different. Not exactly knowing how he was different, he knew he wasn’t like everyone else. Secretly he held inside that he was gay. So afraid people would find out and the teasing and taunting of “fag” and “queer” would get worse, he just knew it. Severe depression consumed him, and that combined with years of bullying from his fellow students, lead him to a suicide attempt his senior year in high school. He wasn’t able to graduate and even if he did, he had no vision of where he fit into the world in the future. In his head, if college was anything like the Hell that was high school, he had no desire to go.
Now, flash forward to that same boy, only exactly ten years later…sitting at a long table at the front of a room of teachers, community, civic, political and religious leaders. His suit a far cry from the jeans and polo of high school, sitting with him at the table are experts in everything from Criminal Justice to adolescent development. As the room of 100 plus people ask the panel on which he sits how to put an end to the epidemic of bullying that has been progressively been getting worse with the advent of CYBER BULLYING.
A week ago I was asked by The Georgia Afterschool Investment Council (GAIC), the Georgia Municipal Association and America’s Promise Alliance to sit on a panel as a part of an anti bullying Summit entitled, “An Afterschool Grad Nation Summit: Creating Bully Free Environments for Student Success” in Milledgeville Georgia to address the problem of bullying and keeping children in schools. I have not lived in this community in sometime, however I was more than eager to come back to the town that I will always call home and help. As I sat there I have to admit, I was so humbled and honored. Just ten years ago I never could have envisioned this day. A day where my peers and fellow citizens were not only embracing of me as an equal, but where also visibly disturbed as I told of specific beatings and cases of bullying that I endured as a child. I got chills just sitting there as I spoke with my hometown’s Mayor (he and his wife have always been very supportive of diversity) on how I may be able to assist in this initiative.
That very moment I will admit made me the most proud…of myself, my town and my fellow Georgians. We stood together… black, white, man, woman, straight and gay. We stood united to fix a problem. We looked past our differences and gazed onward. I am so proud to have been able to be there to see that.
I have done many things in these past ten years – developed my own cosmetic line and started no less than three other companies. I have met celebrities and traveled. I have been on TV and have so many more things to come I am sure. I live in a beautiful city, in a beautiful building.
Being asked by the local news to make a statement (view the video here and read the article here) on what we were doing and hoping to accomplish, being surrounded by such amazing men and women who have achieved so much in their careers and feeling like I was a part of something so much bigger than me – truly extraordinary. Something that could actually help many children to live a happy life and to ensure that suicide is not an option for any child. We discussed how the town as a whole can show that we embrace diversity and each other.
If this isn’t a testament to how terrifically things are changing, I don’t know what is. I don’t know if I will be asked to be a part of anything like that in the future, but I tell you this – that day will go down in my scrapbook as a monumental day for me. I never felt like a cool kid in high school, but I have never been more happy to have been different than I was as I looked in the audience and saw my Mother’s face, fighting back the tears. I have seen her do that before…at my bedside in the hospital ten years ago, but this time it was different…this time it was as if to tell me…”look how far we have come.
I love you Mom and cannot even begin to tell you how thankful I am for you.
Be M Famous,
Christopher Macken
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